Porn vs. Sex Addiction

What is Porn Addiction?

It is solitary.
It is looking at pictures, reading stories or watching movies with nakedness or a specific body part or a specific article of clothing or a specific sexual activity as its focus.
It may have the goal of having an orgasm/ejaculation.
It is done in isolation, even when in a crowd, to create a feeling of sexual excitement.
It involves specific rituals, which vary with the individual.
It involves shame, guilt, and secrecy.
It is not about sex.
It is not about love.
It is about lust.
It is about control.
It is about self-gratification.
Porn creates the vicarious sense of being able to control situations and relationships without having to deal with such messy reality as others’ feelings or desires.
It is a subset of Sex Addiction.
It will rarely escalate into other stages of sex addiction.

What is Sex Addiction?

It requires a partner - willing or unwilling.
It is using another individual or group of individuals to perform some sexual activity.
It may involve Porn to “get in the mood”.
It has the goal of having an orgasm/ejaculation.
It is interacting with others to create a feeling of sexual excitement.
It involves specific rituals, which vary with the individual.
It involves shame, guilt, secrecy and is heightened by the feeling of the danger of exposure.
It is not about sex.
It is not about love.
It is about lust.
It is about control.
It is about self-gratification.
It may involve a spouse. Marriage does NOT prevent sex addiction.
It is divided into three classes:

Stage 1: Masturbation, Porn, Prostitution, Consensual relations.
Stage 2: Exhibitionism, Voyeurism, BDSM.
Stage 3: Non-consensual relations: rape, incest, molestation.

It will often escalate through the stages.
It is usually about the fantasy of what will happen rather than the experience of what happens.

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